Sep 11, 2022
Let go of what should be to make room for what could be.
~ Kristin Smedley and Mary Fran Bontempo
Where would we be without our goals and plans? For many of us, it’s essential to have plans, even to begin a day. Without them, we can feel adrift, unsure of where we’re headed or what we’re doing.
But how many times do your plans actually work out? Sometimes, when we tie ourselves to what we want and expect, especially if we’ve worked hard to get it, we’re crushed when things don’t work out. Occasionally, we get so stuck on our idea of what “should” be, given all of our planning and work, that we keep after a goal or plan that’s not coming to fruition–even if it means running into an imaginary brick wall again and again.
Here at Brilliantly Resilient, we know what it feels like to refuse to let go of what we think “should” be. In Kristin’s mind, her children should not have been blind, and she was unable to see a future in which they lives successful, happy lives.In Mary Fran’s case, her son should not have been an addict, and she refused to accept a reality that was directly in front of her until it was almost too late.
Once we both learned to release what we thought our lives “should” look like, we were able to see the possibilities of what could be. Kristin was able to equip her sons with the tools to build bright futures, and Mary Fran was able to see her son’s illness and get him treatment.
Life evolves. And although plans and goals serve a purpose, it’s essential to recognize that there are opportunities for growth and joy, even if we don’t get what we think we “should.”
Tune into this week’s episode of the Brilliantly Resilient podcast to learn more as we launch a new season of amazing guests! Let’s be Brilliantly Resilient together!
XO,
Kristin & Mary Fran