Feb 7, 2023
When we’re betrayed, our self-trust is totally shattered. There is a breakdown of body, mind & worldview. We need to regain and relearn our trust in ourselves. Our gut is so much more perceptive than our mind.
~ Dr. Debi Silber
Have you ever been betrayed?
Betrayal sounds like a soap-opera word–too dramatic to apply to everyday life. Yet, almost everyone has experienced betrayal at some point, either as an adult through trauma like divorce, or as a youth, when a best friend suddenly decides you aren’t “cool” enough anymore and moves on without you. Think about a hurt that still hurts, even though it may have happened years ago. That’s betrayal.
Dr. Debi Silber, holistic psychologist and author of Trust Again, knows betrayal firsthand. More importantly, she knows how to guide those traumatized by betrayal through the 5 stages of healing where we again become healthy, whole, and are back on solid ground.
Here at Brilliantly Resilient, we’ve experienced betrayal, and it hurts. It’s also easy to get stuck in betrayal, making it a story that defines us instead of learning and choosing to move on.
Dr. Silber reminds us that rebuilding after betrayal is indeed a choice. As we say in Brilliantly Resilient terms, “Are you just visiting your crisis, or are you going to live there?”
In this episode of the Brilliantly Resilient podcast, Dr. Silber not only defines betrayal, but walks us through the 5 stages of healing to help us move towards “healing, rebirth, and a new worldview.” (Tune in at the 18:38 minute mark to hear about the 5 stages.)
Tune in for more from Dr. Silber in this episode of the Brilliantly Resilient podcast, and be sure to listen for these additional Brilliance Bits:
- Betrayal lends itself to creating a new identity. Rebuilding is a choice.
- Hope is not a strategy.
- There’s a collection of symptoms (physical/mental/emotional) so common to betrayal it’s known as Post Betrayal Syndrome.
- Betrayal is a very different type of trauma. It feels personal.
Let’s be Brilliantly Resilient together!
MFB & KS